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Alone On Valentine’s Day: 5 Self-Loving Things To Do

For the first time since I was sixteen, I will be alone on Valentine’s Day this year. So, naturally, as the date approaches, I’ve been considering how I’m going to spend it. I know I don’t want to wallow in self-pity, slurping ice cream while binge-watching TV like some sad rom-com cliché.

I also don’t want to ignore the one day of the year when we all agree to celebrate LOVE. Because love is, without a doubt, the best thing about being human. And, regardless of my relationship status, I deserve to be loved on Valentine’s Day. You, too!

The Most Valuable Love Of All


A romantic night out with a partner, or a fun night out with friends or family, both celebrate the joy and connection we find in our relationships with others. But there’s another kind of relationship that deserves to be celebrated on Valentine’s Day. That’s what I’ll be talking about in today’s post.

What I’m going to share with you today are 5 self-loving activities you can do alone on Valentine’s Day to connect you to the greatest love of all. That is, of course, the love we cultivate and lavishly give to ourselves.

My relationship with myself is important to me. And I know that loving myself allows me to love others more fully.

The following self-love gestures can fill your loving cup to overflowing from within.

Alone On Valentine’s Day: 5 Self-Loving Things To Do

Spend Time Alone in Nature On Valentine’s Day,


If you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, spending time in nature can help you feel less lonely, happier, and more connected.
When we’re out in nature, we’re never truly alone. Spending time in nature, with all of the lifeforms around us – from trees to birds to bugs – reminds us of our interconnectedness to all life. And that connection is built in. In order to facilitate it, we don’t need to understand it, accommodate it, or navigate complexities like emotions and expectations. It is very simple to communicate with nature. All we have to do is show up and BE a part of it.

This idea is especially self-loving if you’re spending Valentine’s Day alone. Particularly if being alone makes you feel lonely. This is due to the fact that spending time in nature makes us feel less lonely. In fact, spending time in nature can improve our mood and overall well-being so much that it’s sometimes referred to as “nature therapy.” It’s good self-care, which is a type of self-love.

Furthermore, when we connect with nature, we see our own essence reflected back at us. The natural cycles that shape us, sustain us, and will one day transition us into something new are all on display. When we’re absorbed in a natural environment, whether we’re conscious of it or not, we’re energetically connecting to the elements of earth, water, fire (sun), and wind – the same elements that make up our physical form and provide us with life energy through metabolism and our breath.

That is, when we appreciate nature, we are also appreciating ourselves. We’re celebrating who we truly are.

Even the most basic recognition of our interconnectedness with nature can serve as a reminder that we are never alone. We’re a part of something spectacular and wondrous. Even a brief reflection on this as we sit or walk in nature honours our inherent and indelible worth.

Attend A Rewarding, Inspiring Class


Why not take a class this Valentine’s Day to feel more connected to others and to show yourself some love?
If you’re afraid of being alone on Valentine’s Day and, for whatever reason, can’t make plans with friends or family, this is the idea for you. Why not enrol in a fun and inspiring class? This not only ensures that you will be in the company of others, but it also provides the gift of a new (or refined) skill.

We show ourselves some love whenever we accomplish something to improve our knowledge or talents, or to offer ourselves the joy of a once-in-a-lifetime event. Positive messages are delivered to our psyche through such actions. They tell us things like, “I’m worth it,” and other self-affirming phrases. I know what I’m doing. It’s a wonderful life. We don’t even have to consider these ideas. We just internalise the notions as we live them out via our actions.

If you’re not sure what kind of class you’d like to take on Valentine’s Day by yourself, the ideas below might spark some ideas.

To get you started, consider the following suggestions:

Valentine’s Day Classroom Activities

  • Yoga (try a different style or one that focuses on the heart, or perhaps a special Valentine’s Day themed session)
  • Bellydancing, hip-hop, ballet, hoop-dancing, salsa, line-dancing, and other types of dance And, in case you’re wondering, partner dances like salsa and line-dancing may be learned without a partner. That’s how my mum met my stepfather more than 30 years ago. (They’re still together!)
  • Cooking (There are so many options! Mediterranean, Italian, Baking, Vegan, and Healthy, to name a few.)
  • a work of art (Painting, drawing, pottery, glass-blowing, art appreciation, jewelry-making, etc.)
  • Photography
  • Barre or any other type of exercise class for public speaking
  • Meditation/Mindfulness (Check with your local Zen or Shambhala centre to see if they’re offering a Valentine’s Day meditation session.)

When you’re alone on Valentine’s Day, it’s time to indulge in some luxurious self-care.


I can’t think of a better approach to develop self-love than to indulge yourself with some lavish self-care, whether you’re alone this Valentine’s Day or not. A trip to the spa for a facial, massage, manicure, or pedicure comes to mind. (Or all of the above, if you have the time and money!)

If you’re like me, you might prefer to do your own spa treatments at home. Why not go all out for Valentine’s Day and create a spa-like atmosphere? You can do the following:

These self-care activities are minor parts of a larger, healthy, and balanced connection with ourselves. They’re merely the top of the iceberg. On a day like Valentine’s Day, though, the physical touch and conscious effort involved can bring the love we feel for ourselves to life in a very dramatic way, especially if we’re spending it alone.

Give Yourself A Fantastic Dinner (Even Alone)

Show yourself some love this Valentine’s Day by cooking a delicious, healthy supper!
On Valentine’s Day, you surely deserve a fantastic supper, whether you’re dining alone or with someone else. What better way to express your love than with some delectable, healthy food? One of the most basic ways to express love is to nourish the people we care about, including ourselves. It goes all the way back to mother’s milk, as well as hunting, collecting, and harvesting for family and community.

The connection between food and emotions is, of course, complicated. To be clear, I’m not recommending that you eat a bunch of comfort food to get rid of your loneliness or any other unpleasant sensations. Or just to experience the joy of a sugar high or other food-induced chemical release. On the contrary, I’m talking about savouring deliciously nutritious food that someone (perhaps you) has taken the time to make in a deliciously delectable way.

Because the reality is, we don’t always feel fantastic after eating a lot of comfort food. It can provide us a temporary boost in happiness and mood. But, before long, we’ll be bloated, lethargic, and possibly guilty or dissatisfied in ourselves. What a difference it makes when we feed ourselves food that we know is actually excellent for us. Food that makes us feel satisfied and happy without making us feel bloated or stuffed. Food that energises us rather than putting us to sleep.

The distinction between comfort food and healthy food is similar to the considerable difference between want and love. The latter, on the other hand, is actually beneficial to our long-term well-being.

Let the act of eating (and possibly creating) good-for-you food be an expression of self-love, whether you’re eating out, ordering takeout, or cooking at home.

Write a letter to yourself in which you express your love for yourself.


My personal fave is the last one. It’s also a must if you’re feeling down about being alone on Valentine’s Day for any reason. Because we all have a natural need to be liked.

On a day when the entire world appears to be celebrating romantic love, not being in a romantic relationship might make us feel incomplete or insufficient. Another message is empowered by writing a love letter to yourself. One that declares, “You are completely whole and sufficient…and here’s why.”

Writing a love letter to oneself may seem weird. However, if you can get over the strangeness and completely immerse yourself in it, this act can open your heart to a genuinely felt self-honoring.

How to Write a Love Letter to Yourself

What you’ll Need: paper, a pen, and an envelope

  • Turn your attention inward for a few moments as you connect with your breath.
  • When you feel you’ve reached your inner awareness, think back to a time when you were a child. If you can, conjure up a mental image of yourself as a small child. How do you think you look? What do you see when you close your eyes? What are your current thoughts, feelings, and/or actions?
  • What would you tell yourself if you could have a chat with this younger version of yourself? What would she or he say to you?
  • Reconnect with your breath and physiological sensations to bring your consciousness back to the present moment. Then think about a recent memory you have of yourself. Make a mental image of yourself in that situation. How do you think you look? What do you see when you close your eyes? What are your current thoughts, feelings, and/or actions?
  • What would you say to this younger version of yourself if you had the chance? What would she or he say to you?
  • Last but not least, visualise yourself in the future. Perhaps in ten years’ time, or perhaps much later. It’s entirely up to you. Bring up a visual image in your head. How do you think you look? What do you see when you close your eyes? What are your current thoughts, feelings, and/or actions?
  • What would you say to this older you if you could have a talk with him or her? What would she/he tell you?

Open your eyes and begin handwriting your love letter once you’ve accomplished your inside journey. You can write it to or from any of the versions of yourself with whom you’ve just made contact. Alternatively, you might simply write to yourself – the entire you spanning all of that time. In any case, make sure to welcome them with your name.
Make it your goal to explain all you see in yourself, everything you admire and understand about yourself. Because you’re the only one who will read it, be vulnerable, raw, and honest.

Place your letter in the envelope and seal it when you’re finished. Put it somewhere where no one else will find it. Then, after a few days, a week, or perhaps a month has passed, bring out your love letter and read it. (Taking this break allows you to hear your words with fresh ears.)

You can save the letter and refer to it whenever you need to reconnect with your self-love. You can also toss it out.

Final Thoughts…


It doesn’t have to be lonely to be alone on Valentine’s Day. It can give you the chance to see yourself in a new light – as the purest source of love you’ve ever known. After all, you are the one person on the earth who knows you better than anyone else. When you love yourself, you recognise that every nook and cranny of your being is deserving of your affection.

It might also be a day when you get to intentionally show yourself that love. Because we can lose sight of self-love when life gets hectic (pushing us in different directions) or tough (causing us to question our own identity). And when that happens, life takes on a new meaning. Our inner light dims, and the world appears to darken a little.

May you radiate the light of your own love from the inside out. And may that light shine brightly throughout the world, warming and encouraging everyone who comes into contact with you. Namaste.

I’d love to know what activities you have planned for Valentine’s Day. Let me know what you think in the comments!

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